The Thankful Project: Day 1

Friday, November 1, 2013


Welcome to The Thankful Project, put together by Chasing Happy! Let's see how long I can stay on top of this, shall we? I spent so much time focusing on the negative things in my life, so I think this will be really good for me. I'll be able to spend at least a few minutes a day posting about something that is good, something that enriches my life, something for which I am grateful. Maybe I'll be able make this into a habit (despite the fact that the whole "it takes 21 days for something to become a habit" idea was busted). Regardless, it will be good to focus on the good. Feel free to join me and link up at Chasing Happy, or use the Twitter hashtag #thankfulproject.

Day 1: A person

Just one? That is really hard. There are so many people in my life who enrich it beyond words, it feels unfair to only be thankful for one in this post. So, instead of picking one friend or one family member, I've picked someone who will (probably) never read this blog. 

My therapist.

I have been going through a lot of "stuff" recently, and as such, upped my therapy sessions to once weekly instead of twice monthly. I've said it before and I will undoubtedly say it again, but Danna, my therapist, is freaking amazing. I've been seeing her on and off since I was in college and she is one of the best things to ever happen to my life. She was there when I was applying to med school (the first time), she was there when I came home (a mega-disaster), she was there when met Ken, waited (impatiently) to get engaged while watching all of my friends do so, she was there when I was wedding planning (and contemplating murdering the people around me), she's been there through all of my self-injuring urges, my sobbing breakdowns, my "I don't want to die but I certainly am not in the mood to live right now, " moments. And yes, she's a therapist, this is why I pay her... but she is more than that. 

She validates my thought processes when they are right, calls me out on the stuff I say that is totally illogical and unsupported, and makes me think about things that most of the time, I avoid thinking about entirely. She makes me make decisions that I've already made in my head, she makes me realize that no, I'm not crazy, the world is crazy and the way I interpret it might be crazy. For better or for worse, she makes me want to be able to improve myself so when I go back to her I can say, "Yes, I did that thing you suggested I do," or "I started thinking about (insert whatever here)" and feel like I am accomplishing something. Also, she makes me laugh, she doesn't care if I say "fuck" (and in fact, says it as well), and she calls it like she sees it. I've recommended her to so many people, and one of the main reasons I don't want to move out of the area is so I don't have to find a new therapist, haha.

So, as I sit here, staring at the soup that makes me anxious to eat it (that's another post for another day that I am not sure I will ever be ready to write), I eat it because I know Danna will totally call me out for not eating lunch next week if I tell her "no" when she asks. (And no, I don't lie to my therapist because that totally defeats the purpose of going to therapy.) She's good for me, she's good for my brain, she's good for my life.

I have amazing friends and a wonderful family, all of whom I lean on (heavily) in times of struggle (thanks, guys!) But my relationship with my therapist is one that is different and one that for which I am extremely grateful. 

Sidenote: Here is my commercial for therapy. You don't need to be having a problem to go to therapy. Therapy doesn't mean you are "broken".  Therapy is a great way to learn about yourself and how you interact with the world. If I had my way, we'd all be in therapy. If you've ever thought about going to therapy, DO IT. If you're in Philadelphia or the surrounding areas, go see Danna. Ok, that's it.

So, who are you thankful for in your life? Head over to the link up, and check back tomorrow for more gratitude!

- A

4 comments:

  1. Thank you for this honest and vulnerable post! I attended therapy for a few months before my little guy was born and am definitely not afraid to go back should I feel I need it. There's such a stigma around it that I was wasn't there. Thanks for being brave and open.

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    1. Hi Kelsea! Thanks for stopping by, and thank you for your sweet words. I hope that the stigma around mental illness/therapy someday goes away entirely, but until then, I like to think that I can do my part here on my corner of the internet.

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  2. Thanks so much for sharing! I'm also part of The Thankful Project this November and would love to read more of your work as the month progresses!

    You can check out my blog at elliecoburn.com if you'd like! Wishing you all the best!!

    xo

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    1. Hi Ellie! Thanks for stopping by! I will definitely be checking out your blog throughout the month. See you soon!

      - A

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